Where is the sanctity of marriage? People no longer save their bodies for their future spouse, and when they get married they will go off and fool around, or get a divorce and try someone else out. I am so sick of marriage being taken so lightly. Marriage is meant to be a permanent binding. And on my wedding day, I want to say the words "till death do us part" with a strong sincerity and commitment.
People say that they fell out of love with that person, or fell in love with someone else. They think that they have no control over their feelings and emotions. When you start to feel the spark and the passion diminish, it is time to get to work on keeping the relationship alive. Marriage is not an easy thing, it takes work. People don't want to have to work in their relationships so they just drop it and look for something else. But they are missing the best stuff that comes from marriage.
What bothers me most about this culture is our loose hold on sex. The people who are dating and not having sex are considered the unusual. Sex is meant to come on the wedding night to create that oneness between the man and the woman. If you give that up, what is the point of marriage? I know so many people who live with their boyfriend/girlfriend and act like a married couple... but why get married? The wedding night would not be any mare special than any other night.
A friend told me that sex had no more depth or meaning than a kiss. My heart broke, because God made sex to be such a powerful expression of love, and when you treat it like nothing more than a kiss... what else do you have? But of course maybe his definition of kissing is a little more intense than mine. But I just hate to see that our culture has put such a low price tag on sex.
From what I gather, most people don't plan on having sex when they do, they just get caught up in the passion of the moment and it happens. And that sounds so dreary to me. What has always enticed me about saving sex until the wedding night is the mystery. You both know what is going to happen, but it is the first time and you get excited about it, and instead of a wild make out session gone too far, I get to seduce my husband. Seduction has always been such a beautiful thing to me. When you are using it God's way there is such a beauty. I think about Song of Solomon, where it is a husband and wife on their wedding night, basically seducing one another.
Song of Solomon, I think, really describes why waiting to have sex until marriage is so important. The man is slowly being revealed to his lovers body and he is enticed and seduced by it and he keeps telling the woman how beautiful and perfect she is and she feels captivating and loved. The beauty of it is that they had never seen each other's bodies before, they had never touched each other before, they hadn't even kissed. So when it was all being unveiled that night, it was a beautiful mystery. It was the way God intended for sex to be used.
I almost don't want to get married, because of how much it has been tarnished. It no longer feels like an unbreakable union under God. But more like 2 people who "love" each other and want to have a big party that is super expensive. But I guess I can't speak for everyone. There still are people who keep the sanctity of marriage. I can only hope that someday the meaning of marriage will come back to the heart of marriage and there will not be so much sin that happens through or because of marriage.
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