I love you are 3 words that have been used very often for many different things. It is something that is tossed around, but sometimes it is something that is kept sacred. Our language is unfortunate because love is used as a friendship love, family love, spouse love, and love for activities or objects. It is such a broad term, so how are we supposed to use it.
People often say that the word love is way overused, but I tend to say the action of love is way underdone. Love is so much more than just a word. The reason that it is so overused is because it is not backed by any sort of action most of the time. I tell people that I love them daily. The kind of love that I am most often referring to is the love of Jesus Christ. He has filled me up with so much love that it just spills over onto the people around me. I would never tell someone that I loved them if I did not.
When I tell people that I love them, usually the things packed into those 3 words are these: I feel very blessed that God put you in my life as my friend. I thank God for you and often pray on your behalf. My life has been enriched more by knowing you. Thank you for putting yourself out there for me. I am thinking about you and if you ever need anything at all, feel free to ask me. Because I care so much about you that I am willing to help you at any cost to myself.
That is kind of a rough meaning. I love you is a pretty loaded sentence. I think it has to be if you really want it to mean something. I always feel like people should get what I mean when I tell them I love them and I forget that their meanings may be different than mine. Maybe when I tell them I love them they hear something like.. I want to have your babies... And that may or may not be true. But usually that is not what I mean, and if I do want to have their babies, I will just tell them.
I think it is important for me to get away from saying I love you all the time and start saying some of the things that I really mean by it, because that may get my point across a little bit better. Because who knows what I mean, or if I mean anything at all. I could be just looking for attention of some sort for all they know.
There was a time in my life when I stopped saying I love you to anyone other than my parents and I stopped saying things like, I love puddle jumping or I love tennis. And that was a time where I had to really think through whether or not it was okay for me to use the word as much as I had been. I mean, when I tell my husband I love him, I want him to know the impact of those words. I don't want to say it to him then turn around and say it to his best friend, even though they mean totally different things.
I then decided that I would never be able to stop using those words. I love loving people! Jesus went around loving people all the time, so I should too! I certainly don't think that I would have to say the words I love you to be like Jesus. But I am using that kind of love when I say it. When people ask me what I mean when I tell them I love them, usually my response is somewhere along the lines of; Well, Jesus loves you so freakin much and because he lives in me, I just can't help from loving you like he does.
Now, there are people who are saving the words I love you for their spouses and their families and such. And I respect that so much. Because then the words have a real power. When you say I love you it will be something really meaningful and solid. And I find such a beauty in that. It reminds me of my friend. This friend does not give hugs.... ever. And I love hugs! I hug some people before I know their name. But anyway, I always try to hug this friend and he never lets me. But one day he hugged me and for a second I just stood there thinking nothing of it. But then, when I realized what was happening, I got so excited! It was such a special thing for him to do and I cherish the moment it happened. And that reminds me of what it will be like for the person that saves their I love you's.
I just hope I can bring that same kind of impact and meaning to my "I love you" in my marriage. But I guess there will be a physical exclamation point that was never used before... ;)
If you didn't get that, I was talking about sex. Dear Future Husband, I hope you are reading this cuz that was for you! I might be giving out my words, but my body is all yours hun.
Okay I will stop talking to my future husband so you all stop thinking I am some sort of freak show. I just like to keep talking to my future husband so that I will stay pure for him. I don't want to be distracted by guys who may just come and go. That's why I don't date. It is too easy for me to give my heart away, so I need to be sure that my relationships are god glorifying.
I love you. It seems so simple, but it is so complicated. I just want everyone to know the love of Jesus Christ and that is what I try to portray whether I am saying the words or not. it is not about what I say, but how I show it. If I tell them I love them and then stab them in the back, I am being nothing more than a hypocrite. I want my actions to follow my words and I want to lift them up and make them feel like a part of something bigger.
The reason that I have to say I love you, I think comes from my gift of encouragement. Words are very important to me. I want the things I say always to make people feel loved. I think I love you is the simplest way to do that. But encouraging words always have to come from the soul to be really heard and taken in. And I pray that God gives me whatever words people need to hear to be lifted up and pointed in the right direction.
I guess that is all i have to say right now. If you are still reading, I want to thank you so much for taking a look into my head, heart, soul, whatever.. into me, I guess. I hope you will understand me a bit more.
23 Peace to the brothers, and love with faith from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 24 Grace to all who love our Lord Jesus Christ with an undying love.
-Ephesians 6:23&24
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